Month: August 2006

Upset with the world

So my computer genius brother came and took my hard drive out so he could go inspect it and try and de-virus it for me, and it turned out I had 14 viruses and 70 spyware… yikes; I pick it up from him later tonight (just at work right now) so hopefully all is cleaned off!

Last night we went to Folklorama, the Caribbean and the Irish pavilions, they were both REALLY good – I usually go to the Irish one every year but I missed it last year and I was pleasantly surprised to see the massive UPGRADE – they’d moved it (I guess it got too popular for the Irish Association!) and had all these big light shows and dancers and this one amazing woman who played the fiddle, pennywhistles, danced and sang – she was brilliant.

Recently I’ve been kind of upset about the state of things. I found on a Doctor Who community a member who’d found this forum full of racists who were just going on and on for pages about how they’ve been long time fans but Doctor Who has always been a white male and they couldn’t believe his assistant first had a black “nigger” boyfriend, “there’s no way I’m watching nigger kissing on British TV” and how they were all outraged they had to “tolerate multiculturalism” and refused to watch the new series because the new companion is black. I couldn’t believe that people like that still existed… I was just shocked. I feel so lucky to live in a country where people actually celebrate multiculturalism.

And then today on the radio I heard about this, I can’t BELIEVE it:

Woman jailed for giving son drugs

Emma Kelly was a promising jockey until her descent into drug abuse
A drug addict mother has been jailed for nine years for supplying heroin and crack cocaine to her son from the age of nine.
Emma Kelly, 31, formerly of Eastbourne, in East Sussex, admitted the offences, which could have killed the child, at a hearing at Hove Crown Court last month.

Kelly admitted supplying the drugs between August 2002 and May 2005.

She also admitted two counts of cruelty to a child between August 2003 and January 2005.

Judge Anthony Niblett told her she had betrayed her son.

You offered no explanation or excuse for it, and there can be none

Judge Anthony Niblett

He said: “On 5 May 2005 you went to his school and you supplied him there with a wrap of heroin. This was, in my assessment, an act of pure wickedness.

“You offered no explanation or excuse for it, and there can be none.”

Kelly was sentenced to nine years in total for supplying her son with class A drugs, including five years to be served concurrently for child cruelty.

This includes two six-year sentences to be served concurrently for supplying him with heroin and crack cocaine, and a consecutive sentence of three years for giving him heroin when he was in foster care.

Emma Kelly was addicted to class A substances

The court was told Kelly had plied her son with opiates from the age of nine, until he was 11.

She had driven him around as she toured Sussex and London in search of drugs.

Ibitayo Adebayo, prosecuting, said Kelly and her son were arrested in January 2005 on suspicion of shoplifting and taken to Eastbourne police station.

The police contacted a drug referral worker who saw the boy, and noted that the pupils of his eyes were very large, suggesting he was going through a withdrawal from drugs.

Judge Niblett said the boy was able to tell police that he rarely went to school.

He did have a bond with his mum, but that was borne out of his addiction

Det Sgt Wendy Fuller

The boy spent a week in hospital withdrawing from his opiate addiction.

Outside the court, Det Sgt Wendy Fuller of Sussex Police described how the boy was “rocking in his hospital bed, very agitated, crying for his mum” when he was experiencing withdrawal symptoms.

“He did have a bond with his mum, but that was borne out of his addiction,” she said.

The boy, now aged 12, is in foster care and is said to be thriving and back at school.

Rebecca Upton, defending, said Kelly’s descent into drug abuse was triggered by the death of her partner in 1996.

‘Truly disgusted’

Before then she had a promising career as a jockey and also worked regularly before developing a dependence on drugs.

Ms Upton said Kelly felt “truly disgusted” at her actions and expressed her “utmost and sincerest remorse”.

The role of East Sussex Social Services was questioned by Judge Niblett, who said that if it had not been for the arrest, social services might not have intervened.

This was despite a social services case conference about the boy being held in 2004, he said.

The social worker connected to the case was changed “and the situation was allowed to continue”.

He said that a social services representative had not attended the court to answer concerns, but added he was pleased that he would receive a report within 14 days.

After the case Sussex Police Child Protection Team (CPT) at Eastbourne said the boy could have died every time he was supplied with the drugs.

‘Lessons learnt’

In a statement, Matt Dunkley, director of children’s services for East Sussex County Council, said: “Our service has the highest possible rating for child protection and naturally our primary concern is for the safety and welfare of the child.

“The child concerned is still in our care and we are delighted that he is thriving and doing well.”

The statement added that all major decisions to protect the child prior to him being taken into care were taken jointly with all the agencies involved, including the police.

“Together with partners in other agencies, we will learn from any of the lessons that arise from this case.”

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE WORLD??

New kitty time!!

I was supposed to go to the Humane Society today with Trista to get our kittens fixed, but because the bank’s put a hold on my account until Tuesday I couldn’t go. But then I found out that this weekend was the last day of their “blowout” – they’ve got way too many animals and they need to give them homes or they’re going to euthanise them. Which just makes me so upset – I posted about this a little while ago, but I love them so much I can’t bear to think of them being killed. I hate how people can be so cruel – not to not take them home, but to do the things that get them there in the first place. I remember parents had 2 cats when I was younger, and one of them (Otis) was one of like 4 or 5 cats tied up in a bag and left on a bridge to be thrown into the water. All the rest found homes and nobody wanted poor Smudge but my mum took him in and he was such a wonderful cat – it’s so awful the way people treat animals. How can they be so heartless??

Anyway so I found out this weekend was the last weekend to help rescue these cats cheaply and so I called my mum up, asked her if I could borrow some money and a lift down there to rescue a cat and said yes! We got down there too late to actually be able to take one home today, but I found the most amazing girl cat. Her name now is “Sally” but I think I’ll change it as it was only given to her by the HS and she’s only been there a month so she won’t’ve grown used to it yet. She’s beeeautiful – pure white from head to toe, and the most amazing emerald green eyes. She curled right up in my lap, gave me kisses and purrs and didn’t want to get off!! So I put the deposit on her and if we go back tomorrow at noon, I should be able to bring her home!

I’m so happy, one more cat saved, and a sister for Rose!

Now onto naming again…  this is the hardest part!

Praise. (Blush)

I just received the most amazing email from a dear friend. I’m doing some design work for him and last night I sent him a rough idea of what I wanted to do, and today I got this back:

I’m going to start off this letter by assuring you that I will not coddle you artistically or exaggerate my praise to you.

You are incredible. I am really, really impressed. I can’t believe you created that in one day. I LOVE IT! I’m just blown away. I want to show it to everyone. I love the fonts the colors, the style, the layout… You are an artist and a very talented one. I would have no idea of where to start to do what you did so naturally.

I’ll get you some higher res pictures and make a couple small changes and we already have a winner. You should be doing this for big companies and lots of money. Just by showing this off I bet I’m going to get you work.

It seems like this would be a good intro sheet. I could use it as a poster, a postcard, or the first sheet in a packet (that includes a DVD promo, letters of recommendation, etc. )

In short, I feel so lucky that you are helping me on this. Thank you for sharing your talent with me.

This is going to be the best project ever!! 😀

Reflections

Finally, a real update.

The fringe is officially over, and along with it my favourite part of the year. I think this time of year even surpasses Halloween in terms of being so enjoyable. Not just because of the amazing amount of talent and creativity that springs up in the span of 2 weeks, the support, the ideas, and so many wonderful performances, but because I get to see some of the most incredible people from all over the world. It is far too short a period of time and was over far too quickly. But I had such a lovely time. I saw loads of plays, explored the Exchange, and spent some wonderful times with wonderful people. We had great meals, crazy bowling, and one night, Jenn, Shelby, Raven and myself had a Ghost Story night where Shelby read to us from this book that must have been over a hundred years old. We all had a “tell one thing you’ve never told anyone else” thing going on in a circle for a while too, where I learned lots of interesting things about my friends!

I got presents too! CD exchanges are always so much fun to do; I love sharing music with people who are just as passionate about it as I am, and I got two amazing new CDs from Shelby. He also got the HUGE artist’s rendition of Mr. Slurch (my all time favourite character from any play, ever) who made a surprise appearance at a late night caberet-type show, got permission to take it down and give it to me as a gift. I took it to work to laminate today (to protect it) and it’s going right up on my wall.

Monday was the last night before they left for LA, which was sad… but it was spent in such a lovely way. Me, Joel, Jenn and Shelby went to Ivory on Portage, ate too much good food and spent hours just sitting there talking (and taking some really good pictures, which I’ll post when I get home). I am so lucky to have been blessed with the friendship of such truly amazing people. I’m happy that everything has been patched up too, and it doesn’t seem like there’s any more hard feelings between anyone.

Recently I’ve learned that life is too short to spend harbouring negative feelings and prolonging arguments and grudges. Whenever anything bad happens, and I’m angry or annoyed with someone, now I try to think “what would I do if this was the last time I got to see this person?” Usually it makes me far sadder to think of that and forces the realization that life really is too short to spend being mad at people. And I have my love and my wonderful friends to thank for making me realise that.

I cried when I said goodbye. Why is it that such amazing friends have to live so far away?

Sorry for the long post. Just feeling a little reflective, insightful and thankful for everything.