In the spirit of all the American Thanksgiving-inspired posts I’ve seen recently, even though we had our own Thanksgiving a month ago (complete with microwave turkey and dropped pie all over the oven), I feel inspired to write a Thanksgiving post of my own.
It’s interesting when you look back on your life over the last couple of years and see how much has changed. How difficult situations, at the time, seemed so arduous and complicated; taking big steps involved cutting ties, getting rid of the comfortable and easy and moving on toward the different and new. It’s been a tumultuous couple of years, but I’ve landed with a handful of people who make me feel like life’s amazing.
I’m thankful for my fiancé, who came back after years of not seeing each other, took a chance on me at a time when it would’ve been easier to say no (though my persistence may have played a small part in this) – he was working fifteen hour days six days a week, and seeing me the one free night of the week meant he had to give up church, time with his family and time with his friends. I’m thankful he stuck with me when my confidence had been destroyed along with my self-esteem; while I was unable to believe somebody could ever care about me, and while I was afraid of absolutely everything. I’m thankful for everything he’s taught me, about faith, about relationships, and about gratitude – not a day goes by without him giving thanks for the country we live in, the people we have in our lives, and the blessings we really do have, even when life seems hard. Through him I’ve become a better person – more secure, more benevolent, and more confident. And for this I am truly thankful.
I’m thankful for my best friend, who funnily enough also was in my life years ago, and came back after years of being out of touch. We’d fallen out over something stupid, and at the lowest point of my life, following an enormous break up, I was sceptical I could ever live independently again. I’d poured all my energy into a horribly abusive co-dependency as a result of my own insecurity, and I had no idea how to function in the real world. In a recent conversation, she said I’d been like “a paper bird, literally trembling, and jangling cups and saucers as I’d pour her tea”. She came back into my life during my biggest low, and I truly believe she rescued me. She took me under her wing and slowly brought me back to life. I’d never been cared for like that before, and I owe who I am today hugely to her kindness and friendship. I’m incredibly thankful for someone I know is going to be there for life.
I’m thankful for the wonderful relationship I have with my dad. We’ve gone through some extremely difficult times together, and he’s been the constant in my life that’s helped me get through absolutely anything. I couldn’t imagine life without him and I’m lucky to have been blessed with such an incredible man I get to call Dad.
I’m thankful that in a world of technology, incredible authors are still churning out fabulous stories, wonderful writing, and books that allow my imagination to soar further than any movie could. Though on that note, I’m also thankful for the technology that allows me to stay in touch with my friends and family back home, to watch all those wonderful BBC programmes, and to listen daily to my beloved Radio 1 and not feel quite so homesick.
I’m thankful I got the opportunity to work where I do now. My term may be coming to an end, but even if I don’t get extended, I’m thankful I was given this opportunity. I’ve grown more in the eleven months I’ve worked here than I ever have in any other job, and I’ve formed friendships I know will last beyond my time here. People have supported me and pushed me out of my comfort zone, seeing my potential and capability when I haven’t been able to see it myself. I’m in a better place because of my experience here, and for that I am truly thankful.
I’m thankful for the awful relationship experiences I had in the past – they forced me to really figure out who I was, who I wanted to be, and were invaluable life lessons. If I hadn’t gone through the crap, I would never have been motivated to live any differently, and I look back on it all as an opportunity to learn and grow to get to where I am today.
I’m thankful for all my new bloggy friends! For everyone who reads, comments, and emails when I’m going through something good or bad, for those people scattered around the world who check in and read my blog, and whose friendship is becoming very real – I’m thankful I found you, and I can’t wait to keep reading and being a part of your lives as much as you are mine.
Things can be pretty bad sometimes, but when you take a moment to really count your blessings, life can seem truly wonderful. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone south of the border!
Great post. We all have so much to be thankful.
I am also thankful for the relationship experiences I had. I ran out of days, but if I had another day I was going to post about how I am actually thankful for all the tough stuff I’ve been through – AND the fact that I still love with a generous heart. I learned more from those relationships than I would have if i hadn’t gone through them, and I now have a better idea of the kind of man I want to be with.
Have a fantastic day! So happy that I discovered your blog!
Aw thanks Lisa! I’m happy I found you too! I read in a book recently a line that just stuck with me – with bad life experiences, you have a choice whether to “become bitter about them, or become better because of them” – and it’s such a neat way to look at life. It saves so much negative energy that could be wasted on regret and vengefulness, where you can use the same things to learn things about yourself, about other people, and about behaviour in general. I’m glad you can still love as well 🙂
Well said, lady 🙂 I really enjoyed this post.
I love Thanksgiving! I was awake this morning at 3:00 waiting for 4:00 to roll around so I could get up and put the turkey in and I had a brilliant thankful blog post to post but of course it’s just barely a thread of memory at this point. I echo everything you’ve said though. I thank God everyday for our health, family and friends, and our jobs so we can have our nice house and our running cars. I do feel so connected with people thanks to the Internet, too. It’s crazy how much of a difference it makes, but so many of my friends are far away so it’s nice to be able to be connected so easily. Technology is awesome!
I can’t believe you were up at that hour for a turkey!! (Says the girl who’s only ever cooked a microwave turkey from Safeway :))
I hope it turned out amazingly and you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
I am very thankful you introduced me to a whole new technology world I’ve never been a part of before. I’m new to blogging and already I can see it’s appeal! What a unique venue to chat about real life stuff and get a chance to connect with some great people who enjoy interesting conversations!
I look forward to reading more of your posts and discovering other posts that are out there.
Technology is very awesome:)
Awww thanks! I’m so glad you’re on board 🙂
I am REALLY thankful I’ve found you 🙂
Aww, me too! 🙂
It’s pretty awesome to have friends like Kyla, eh? I only spent 48 hours with her earlier this year but she’s a keeper, much like you!
I’m also thankful for my past relationships and dating experiences because they have also forced me to grow as a woman, learn more about what I want in a man, and have taught me countless things about myself and love.
I’m so glad that we’ve become friends and I can’t wait to meet you next year! We will make it happen!
It’s so amazing to see someone facing such difficulty with such strength, and still seeing the positives – I’m so thankful I found you too! And I can’t wait to see you next year! 🙂
This post made me hopeful that someone might come back into my life. Thank you. 🙂
Oh yay that makes me happy! I know – I was never one to follow clichés but it’s kind of true about when they say ‘if you love someone let them go’ and they’ll come back if they were meant to be in your life – it took years but now I have both my best friend and my fiancé (and it was funny they both kind of came back at the same time) 🙂
Don’t lose hope 🙂
Indeed when we take a moment to count our blessings, we will realize how wonderful life is.
Thank you for such sweet words Em, I’m really thankful for you =)
Happy American Thanksgiving! I’m so glad you took this opportunity to reflect on so many great things! 🙂
aww…this just gave me warm fuzzies!!